Certain situations in life call for us to man-up. Times when things could be avoided, and maybe should be avoided. Times that call for a choice. Often times, people choose to go the easy route and tiptoe around issues. This is the weak way out. But it works, I guess. People do it all the time. Not me. Not anymore.
I’ve been at the receiving end of a fucked-up situation before. I know how it feels to want answers to questions when no one is comfortable in providing said answers. It can be rather excruciating. But I can’t control the “manliness” or character of other people. All I know is that I prefer to take situations head-on. Life is too short to beat around the bush, or leave things open-ended or unfinished. I was faced with something like this just this afternoon. I think I made the right choice.
Part of being a good man, or a good woman, is to take responsibility for one’s own actions. This is something I am willing to do now and forever. I did examine my options. And I chose to explain myself, and to do it in a nice way. I wanted the other person to see my point of view, hoping it would lead to a clearer understanding and, ultimately, closure. My response was thoughtful, fair, and, if I might say so, well-written. I think it helped immensely. At least, I hope so.
My stress level is now low. A bit sad, but I am good. My mind feels free and I am quite proud of myself. That’s a nice thing.